Takeaways from Rebecca’s coaching session
I’m currently working on my next animation of the 5 love languages by Gery Chapman. But in the meantime, I wanted to record a quick video about my top 3 takeaways from Mel Robbin’s new Audible production Work It Out.
There are 5 coaching sessions, but I decided to create 5 separate videos because the lessons that I learned from listening to each of them deserved their own video. The reason why I’m doing this is because I’m a big fan of Mel Robbins and her work and I feel like a lot of people could benefit from listening to these live coaching sessions. Since I just finished the first part I wanted to quickly review it until it’s still fresh in my memory.
So the first coaching session was with Rebecca who struggled with being a workaholic that had a negative impact on her marriage and her health. So if you can relate to her story it definitely makes sense to listen to the whole session but here are my top takeaways. There are actually 7 that Mel also summarized but these are the ones that resonated with me the most.
1. Setting boundaries
Alright, so my first takeaway is about setting boundaries. And I think this is critical for everyone. Most of us are addicted to our phones and social media and this can affect our sleep, our mental health and so many different aspects of our lives. In the first session, Mel suggested setting boundaries by scheduling open hours for yourself.
So what does this mean? These are predetermined times when you can unplug to truly be present in the moment and enjoy some real quality time. For that time just put away your phone, and go for a walk, or journal, enjoy a cup of coffee with your spouse or a friend or whatever helps you to recharge.
2. It’s not about when you get up but about how you get up
Research shows that if you don’t get a hold of your morning, you lost the entire day. My husband, Angelo and I did a 5 AM wake up challenge a couple of times but the reason it was so effective for us wasn’t about us getting up so early but the fact that we knew that e-mails and messages and people needing our attention won’t come before 8 AM. That means that we had 3 hours to enjoy a morning coffee together, journal, read and start the day without being interrupted.
Therefore, rather than focusing on this magical number of 5 AM, focus on setting up a morning routine that works for you. And this can even be as short as 10 minutes. Just please don’t check your phone until your morning routine is done, that is one of the worst things that you can do.
Mel also recommends setting a quitting time in the morning which is definitely something Angelo and I have to work on. So you can join us with this challenge!
3. Focus on joy and practice it every day
Joy is a state of being that grounds you. The good news is that unless happiness which is on the surface level, you can access joy right now and develop it in your daily life even in difficult times.
This is something I can definitely relate to. I’m dealing with some hormonal issues lately which means that I spent the last 13 days in excruciating pain every day. So I definitely can’t tell you that I was happy every day. But I found joy in every single day which has a lot to do with practicing gratitude.
So how can you do it? I will walk you through what Mel did. Take a deep breath, take a look around you and tune in on one thing. Now compliment one thing about what you see. That’s it.
Another option is to create a personal bucket list of the things that bring you joy and do them. For Rebecca, it was taking the dogs out on a walk with her husband. What is it for you? If it’s not too personal I’d like to read them in the comments below, so share if you feel comfortable with it. And add it to your life right now.
Alright, guys, these were my takeaways from listening to the first coaching session. If you listened to Work It Out already, let me know what was the most interesting lesson you learned. Until next time!Listen to it on Audible